Bergman's Bruisers

A Look Into My Life Of Raising Four Rough
And Tumbly Boys

Friday, May 31, 2013

34 Acts Of Kindness for My 34th Birthday

"No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted."

 I was inspired by this article I read about a woman who celebrated her birthday by giving back and doing one act of kindness for every year of her life.  It was fun to think about  and decide what 'acts' I would do.  But, I would be lying if I said it was easy to execute them all.  Turns out it's sometimes awkward to give someone a gift you don't know very well or do something for someone and they don't understand why. 

I found 'random acts of kindness' cards on the Internet.  They were perfect, as they chose the just the right words for what I was trying to do.

' Hi- You are the recipient of a random act of kindness.
 No gimmicks, it's just something I felt like doing.  
I hope this random act of kindness encourages you.  God Bless your day.
Here are my Acts: 

1, 2, 3. Flowers to our grandmothers.  We were able to visit Monu personally and give her the flowers, but for my grandmothers they arrived courtesy of the mail.

4. Cookies for my mail(wo)man.  I think she appreciated it because she left me a thank you note in my mailbox the next day.

5. Compliment someone you don't like.  This one was hard.  Hard because it took me a while to think about someone I genuinely don't like, and then once I did, it was really hard to find a sincere compliment for them.  Of course, I'm not going to say who it was or what I said.  Just know that I completed this act of kindness. 

6. Sleeping in for Steve.  Neither one of us are early morning risers. It's often a 'rock-paper-scissors' game for who has to get up with the kids on Saturday morning. I really surprised him because on Mother's Day I quietly got up and closed the door letting him sleep in until he decided to get up--It was about 10:30 for anyone wondering.

7. Pick up trash.  Gavin's flag football games were played on these huge open fields that left trash blown all over.  After one of his games the kids and I took time to clean up the area.

8. Pay-it-forward.  See that truck in my mirror?  I bought their lunch.  It felt really good. 

9. In honor of my Dad I donated a care package to our troops overseas.  


10.  In honor of Chewy I donated money to his home before ours.

11. Donate clothes to the Leukemia Texas.  It was easy, they even came by to pick it up.  

12.  Treats to the police department- This was a huge failure.  I loaded up the kids and headed to a police department that was "closed due to budget cuts."  A little frightening?  You bet.

13.  Treats for the local fire department-  Their treats doubled with the closing of the police department.  A little disappointing at this stop also because no one answered the door!  I really wanted my boys to see how good it feels to give to others and all we felt was the sting of unanswered doors.

14. Pick-up an extra carpool shift. 

15. Treats for the trash men (or sanitation engineers as I've learned they are called.) I know it may look bad to have put the cookies on top the trashcans, but for THREE WEEKS I tried to run out to meet them and missed them every time.

16.  Play a board game with Harrison.  Honestly, not my favorite thing to do, but he loves games and was thrilled I asked him to play.

17.  Read to Cannon.  You may be thinking, "Greta, you should be doing this all the time with Cannon."  You are thinking nothing I don't know already.  And we do read books, but not as often as I'd like or should.  So, on this kind day I took the extra time to read extra books. 

18-23. Wrote letters to my mom, mother-in-law, and special friends.  Letters with things I've thought and perhaps haven't expressed or just an overall 'thank you' for being a positive force in my life.

24. Smile at 5 strangers.  This one was more or less a freebie.  I smile at people all the time.  What if that's the only smile they get all day?!

25. Use reusable bags at the grocery store.  This is only hard for me because I forget the bags in my car.  But, I've made a conscious effort to remember them.  I'd say I'm 70% successful.

26. Bring in my neighbors trashcans.  I failed at this one.  My neighbors are Johnny-on-the-spot when it comes to bringing in their trashcans.

27. Return the loose shopping carts in the parking lot at the grocery store.  I'm hoping a teenager appreciated that one.

28. Let someone cut-in on my way to work.  This is HUGE!  I drive down I-35 to get to work.  It's a congested mess that can work the nerves of Job himself.

29.  Snuggle extra long with Gavin.  Left to his own demands I would sleep in Gavin's bed allowing him to 'spoon me' all night long.  On his special night I lingered longer then usual giving him the extra hugs and kisses he is always wanting.

30.  Tape money to the vending machine at work. I'm hoping one of our NICU parents received this one.

31.  Cookies for our cleaning lady at work.  What a thankless, yet completely necessary job.  She comes in every morning with her hair fixed nice and smelling good and always makes a fresh pot of coffee in the break room.  She deserved the treats.

32. Pay-it-forward at Starbucks.  Steve pooped on this one saying it's so overdone, and he's probably right.  But, it's still nice to receive a free drink and I did it at the one near my work so I'm hopeful a hospital employee (probably working nights also) started their shift feeling a little more kind.

33. Make a meal for someone-  I've been waiting to finish this blog post because of this act.  Our kitchen has been under construction for the duration of May and my cooking has been greatly limited.  I would have felt a little cheesy bringing someone chicken nuggets and steamed green beans.  While I have not completed this act yet, I do know who I'm making it for and what I'm going to make. 

34. Surprise Gavin's preschool class with cookies for their snack day.  I picked peanut butter cookies and everyone seemed pleased and excited.

35.  And one to grow on- My friend, Kristen, said one of my acts should be that I've encouraged others to do the same thing for their birthdays.  It didn't feel valid enough to count as one of the core '34', but I'll take it as my one to grow on.  Hopefully I have encouraged or inspired someone to do even one act of kindness.  It felt good and it felt right in a world that seems to have so much wrong lately.

Saturday, May 25, 2013

It's Time And We Are Ready jump into this summer.....

 ...and make a huge splash! 

 Our plans are made, trips are planned, learning is scheduled, and play dates are penned.  Now, if I can just figure out how to balance a full-time job with all this fun. 

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Wisconsin Cousins

PopPop holding our newest addition, Tessa.  

Auntie Liz and family came to visit Texas for a week.  We missed their visit last year because we were in South Carolina, so we were especially excited to visit this year and do a 'meet and greet' with the two new cousins, Cannon and Tessa.  I have such a special relationship with my many cousins, my hope is for my children to forge those same bonds with theirs.  

Who's that sweet baby?!  Why, that's my sweetie pie Cannon!  He seems to have turned the corner and is becoming sweeter everyday!  Perhaps this is due to the extensive prayers from his Godmother Bailey?

My Bruisers prepped and looking handsome for a photo shoot for their Grammy.

Gavin's infectious smile.  

Cute outfits? Check.  Kids all in one location? Got it.  Great location with perfect shading?  Yep.  Getting all the kids to look at the camera at the same time and smile?  Impossible. 

Like all good cousins/boys/middle-children/Gavin's, he took full opportunity of Sam's less-than-enthusiastic feelings towards picture taking and relentlessly teased him.  Leaving Sam frustrated. 

Finally, he took matters into his own hands.  Literally, his own hands it took to shut his cousin up.

And like most boys, minutes later, all was forgotten.  

Bergman grandsons.  

Grammy had but two requests: a picture of her children and grandchildren.  I kid you not, this picture was harder then the grandchildren!  The fussing and complaining was relentless!  

Sam giving a skeptical look at the camera.  Or perhaps the look was directed at the man behind the camera, Uncle Steve.  Sam was much happier when his mom, Aunt Liz, took over the picture taking. 

Cutie Tessa.  She was go-with-the-flow with all the boys running a muck around her. 

Hopefully we have another visit next year chock-full of more playing and visiting!

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Move Over Emmitt Smith

There's a new running back in town.  Another Upward season has come to a close. It was flag football this go-round.  Harrison was, unfortunately, put on the disabled list due to his broken arm leaving Gavin to carry the Bergman name into glory. 

Gavin did us proud. 
When that ball was thrown or passed to him those little legs ran as fast as he could to the end zone.

Good game.  Good game. Good game.

Sunday, May 12, 2013

Momma's Day 2013

 Mother's Day 2012

No one else will ever know the strength of my love for you.

After all, you're the only one who knows what my heart sounds like from the inside.

Mother's Day 2013

 Leading up to Mother's Day I kept telling my boys that it was my day to be "queen" and they had to do whatever I said.  My day started off complaining that I was missing a crown leaving my 'queen look' incomplete.  Gavin quickly volunteered to make me a crown garnished with green and yellow colored jewels. I loved my homemade crown and loved even more Gavin bowing on his knees saying, "yes, your Highness" whenever he approached. It was a day fit for a queen indeed.